Blended Families

Blended families can bring many joys, but they can also come with their own set of difficulties. A blended family is a family where one or both partners have children from a previous relationship, and they are now trying to create a new family dynamic.

One of the biggest difficulties of blended families is the merging of different parenting styles. Each parent may have their own way of raising their children, and this can create conflicts and misunderstandings. It's important for both parents to be open to learning from each other and finding a parenting style that works for everyone.

Another difficulty is the adjustment period for the children. Children may have a hard time accepting a new parent or step-siblings, and this can lead to feelings of resentment, jealousy, or even depression. It's important for parents to be patient and understanding during this transition period, and to seek the help of a therapist if needed.

Blending families can also be challenging when it comes to discipline and rules. Each parent may have different rules and expectations for their children, and this can create confusion and frustration. It's important for both parents to establish clear guidelines and boundaries, and to work together to ensure consistency and fairness.

Additionally, blended families often have to navigate through complex family dynamics, such as ex-spouses, grandparents and other relatives who may have their own feelings about the new family formation. These dynamics can be difficult to navigate, and it's important for parents to be aware of these potential challenges and to be open to seeking guidance from a therapist if needed.

One of the most important things to keep in mind when blending families is to be patient, understanding and open to learning. It's important to remember that blending families is a process and it can take time for everyone to adjust. With open communication, patience and a willingness to work through any difficulties, blended families can thrive and build strong and loving bonds.

It is important to note that it is not uncommon for blended families to seek guidance from a therapist to help them navigate the complexities and challenges that come with the process of blending families. It is also important for parents to take care of themselves and seek self-care during this process.

Chris Cambas, LMFT, Certified Gottman Therapist & Trainer, Relationship Expert, Co-Founder of CoupleStrong
CEO of National Marriage Seminars & The Practice Startup.