Sexual Desires In Marriage

Sexual desires within a marriage can be a complex and nuanced topic, but it's important to understand that it is normal for sexual desires to change over time.

One of the biggest misconceptions about sexual desires in marriage is that they should remain consistent throughout the relationship. In reality, sexual desires can fluctuate due to a variety of factors, such as age, stress, medical conditions, and hormonal changes. It's important for couples to understand that this is normal and that there are ways to work through changes in sexual desire.

One of the key ways to address changes in sexual desire is through open and honest communication. Couples should be able to talk openly and honestly about their sexual desires without fear of judgment. This can help both partners understand and accept any changes in desire and work towards finding a solution that works for both of them.

Another important factor to consider is the role of intimacy in a relationship. Intimacy is not just about physical touch, but also emotional and mental connection. It's important for couples to understand that intimacy can take many forms and that there are many ways to maintain a strong emotional and mental connection, even if physical touch is not as frequent.

In addition, couples can explore new ways to spice up their sexual relationship. This can include trying new positions, experimenting with new techniques, or even introducing new toys or games into the bedroom. It's important for couples to be open-minded and willing to try new things to keep the spark alive.

It's also important for couples to understand that it's normal to have different sexual needs and desires. One partner may have a higher sex drive than the other, and it's important for both partners to understand and respect each other's needs. This can include discussing boundaries and finding ways to compromise and meet each other's needs.

In conclusion, sexual desires in marriage can change over time, and it's important for couples to understand that this is normal. Open and honest communication, intimacy, and creativity can help maintain a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship. It's also important to be mindful of the role of intimacy in the relationship and to understand and respect each other's needs. As always, it is important for couples to seek guidance from a therapist if they need help in this matter.

Chris Cambas, LMFT, Certified Gottman Therapist & Trainer, Relationship Expert, Co-Founder of CoupleStrong
CEO of National Marriage Seminars & The Practice Startup.